Stop Expecting These 10 Things From Others

One of the many faults that we have and greatest source of emotional and mental suffering is having too much expectations of others. Constantly putting your friends and family under a microscope is simply asking for trouble and studies even show that unwarranted expectations from people leads to anxiety, depression and psychological health deterioration. This is because giving someone else standards leads to disappointment once they don’t manage to reach them and that creates rifts and severely damages your relationship with people.

1. Stop expecting them to always do the right thing

Everybody’s different, from the genetic make-up in our DNA to the cultural and social beliefs. Expecting people to do the right thing is a bit unrealistic, because what may seem right for you isn’t to them. The environment you’ve been raised in imposes various psychological and cultural practices which differ to different people. So if feeding on a dog isn’t right to you, don’t expect that from your Asian workmate. Focus on your beliefs and morals.

2. Don’t expect everyone to agree with you

We constantly feel comfortable when people around us agree with our thoughts and actions but this may not always be the case. Don’t let anger or hurt get to you when your colleagues don’t share the same sentiments that you hold and this is both pointless and harmful.

3. Stop expecting them to be perfect

Well it’s a no brainer that no-one’s perfectand expecting this from people is bound to result in disappointment. Once you expect people to do certain things to perfection and they don’t, try and understand that they are only human and they tried.Besides, they may be very comfortable with what they did and see it as their best.

4. Don’t expect them to be mind-readers

Sometimes you may not be feeling okay and you may be having some emotional or mental turmoils. Use your words to express yourself because human beings are incapable of reading your mind. Remember, failing to communicate is one of the top factors that injures relationship.

5. Stop expecting them to pick us up after we fall

Everyone has their own struggles and just because someone isn’t there to brush the dirt off your shoulders doesn’t mean that they don’t care. They could be facing much larger problems than yours.

6. Stop expecting them to always understand you

Don’t try and explain yourself too hard to others, so long as you understand yourself, then the others don’t really count. Your friends not ‘getting’ you doesn’t make you any less of what you are.

7. Stop expecting them to treat you how you treat them

We’d all love a perfect world but that is not the case. Some people would still treat you poorly even if you give them the royalty treatment and shower them with kindness. Be compassionate and understand that they may be lacking a true relationship with their self in the first place.

11 Things Men Do When They’re Truly In Love

We men are not great at expressing our emotions in words. We are more comfortable with deeds and actions than trying to express complex emotional states we are already uncomfortable examining. We are raised to be strong and unshakable bastions of safety that our friends, family and lovers can retreat to when they are in pain or danger. Being vulnerable and open is difficult for us, but not impossible. It is fairly obvious when we have opened the castle gates of our hearts and let someone in.

Here are some signs that you live in that heart castle.

11 ACTS OF A MAN’S TRUE LOVE

1. HE LOVES AND RESPECTS HER FOR WHO SHE IS

In a culture of superficial beauty and disposable relationships, when a man truly loves a woman, he loves all of her, not just her beauty. He loves her for her who she is. He loves her flaws as well as her virtues. He respects her decisions and her choices in life.

2. HE IS HER BIGGEST CHEERLEADER

When a man loves a woman, it isn’t enough to be successful on your own; you also want her to be successful in whatever she chooses to do. He is her biggest fan and most vocal cheerleader. He believes in her and what she can accomplish. He lets everyone know how awesome she is.

3. HE PROTECTS HER

A man places himself between danger and that which he loves. He shields his woman not just from physical harm, but also emotional traumas. Always vigilant and always on guard, he is ready at a moment’s notice to place himself in harm’s way. He does not raise his hands against those he loves. It would never cross his mind.

4. HE STEPS UP

When times are tough or there is a tough decision to make, a man steps up and takes action. He does not shift the responsibility to others. He steps up and takes responsibility. He steps up and makes the sacrifice when necessary. His personal comforts and safety are secondary considerations. When things go wrong, he takes the blame and the responsibility for making things right again.

5. HE VALUES YOUR OPINION

When a man loves you, your opinions matter to him. He may not give a flying #$&@ at a rolling donut what anyone else on earth thinks, but what you think of him matters greatly. What you think about political, religious or business matters matter to him. What you think you two should paint the bedroom matters to him. Your opinions on all things great and small are important to him.

6. HE LISTENS

When you speak, he stops what he is doing to listen to you. What you have to say is important to him, even if it is trivial day to day stuff. He pays attention to you because you are the most important person in his world.

7. HE REMEMBERS

He remembers things like your favorite color, how you like your coffee or what types of books you are into. He remembers because you are important to him. It may seem trivial to you, but to him, you are the focus of his world. He is your biggest fan and remembering how you like your ice cream is just natural.

8. HE GOES OUT OF HIS WAY

If you need him, he will stop what he is doing and go out of his way to help you. He will drive an hour to fix your printer that isn’t working and then drive back an hour to go to work. You are important to him, so he will find a way to make it happen. It is no trouble. It is an act of devotion.

9. HE LOVES ENOUGH TO LET GO

When a man is secure in his love for you, then he has no problem with you hanging out with your girlfriends for the evening. He is not clingy and demanding of your time. He understands you are busy and have a life of your own. We all need our time apart with our friends to do the things we are passionate about.

10. HE MISSES YOU

When you have to travel for work or to visit family, he misses you when you are gone. He thinks about you while you are away and will send goofy little notes to let you know you are on his mind. He will be glad and excited to see you when you get back as well.

11. HE FEELS YOUR PAIN

If you are hurting, then he is hurting as well. It is like he can physically feel your pain. We men are meant to protect our mates, and if they are hurting, then we have somehow failed in protecting them. We want to soothe their pain and shield them from harm. We don’t want to see those we love hurt.