Every pain gives a lesson


Every pain gives a lesson and every lesson changes a person.

We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. 

Without pain, there would be no suffering, without suffering we would never learn from our mistakes. To make it right, pain and suffering is the key to all windows, without it, there is no way of life. 

Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever.

God gave us pain to remind us we are alive, so we will learn to value the joys and beauty of the world.

People in pain are like the wandering minstrels of the Renaissance. Any occupied space becomes their court. If the story’s told often enough, perhaps the demons will become manifest. Made visible and mastered though words.

Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - life itself. - Walter Anderson

Don't bother going to my funeral


Some people in your family will come miles to bury you, but won't even cross a street to come support you when you are alive.

They will drive miles to show up for the memorial service if there is going to be an audience and they will drive the same miles to come get things they want, but never have the time or money to come for a visit not even when you are in the hospital.

When I die, don't come to my grave to tell me how much you love me and how much you miss me, because those are the words I want to hear while I'm still alive.

The last time I went to a funeral I couldn’t stop thinking that rather than saying all of those accolades after the person is gone, wouldn’t it be nice to have a big party while the person is still alive so he/she can hear those touching words & celebrate life!


The way I look at it if you can not come see me when I am alive then don't come see me when I am dead.