1. Hold her hand.
There are two reasons why holding her hand sends her over the moon. One is scientific, and the other is romantic. Research proves that holding hands reduces stress. MRIs show a significant reduction in stress-related brain activity with hand-holding. That’s the scientific reason she loves it so much. The romantic reason is that this spontaneous gesture reflects the genuine state of your heart. So squeeze a little hand-holding into her day. Reach for her hand while having dinner, watching TV, or just walking together. Then get ready for a beaming smile to shine your way.
2. Listen without trying to fix what’s wrong.
When she’s struggling with a problem, you naturally want to fix it. Men are wired this way. But she doesn’t necessarily want a solution, or at least not just yet. She wants to feel better. Listening with empathy will help her sort out conflicting emotions and thoughts. Then she’ll set her sights on a solution. Talking about the problem is her strategy for fixing it. She’ll get to the answer eventually. Meanwhile, just listen attentively.
3. Give her compliments.
Compliments convey your appreciation. They make her feel valued and special. Here are five sample compliments for a five-star partner rating:
- “I don’t know what I’d do without you.” You’re saying she’s irreplaceable. You need her. She’s vital to your very life.
- “You are my sunshine.” Acknowledging how happy she makes you will send her spirits soaring.
- “You’re perfect just the way you are.” This conveys your unconditional love. She doesn’t have to do or be anything specific for you to adore her.
- “I’m so proud of you.” Paying attention to your partner’s achievements demonstrates your support. It’s another way to validate her.
- “I love your new [hairstyle, dress, lipstick,” etc. Fill in the blank.] This shows you’re attentive to details and to her.
