Their Marriage Broke A World-Record, But Their Secret Is Simple. Everyone Needs To Know This

 Imagine going through the Great Depression, World War II, the Civil Rights Movement and eventually living to witness the first African-American president of the USA. President Obama even sent them a signed commendation back in 2010!

The lovebirds Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher broke The Guinness World Record for the longest marriage. They were married since May 13, 1924. Back in 2008, they broke the record for longest marriage at 84 years.

This looks like mission impossible in the world we live in today. Most marriages end before they even truly begin! Researchers estimate that 41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce, 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce and 73 percent of all third marriages end in divorce. Then how come this couple stayed together for so long to broke the world record?! What’s their secret?!

They were interviewed about their secrets to withstanding through harsh times and managing crisis in marriage. Here are the simple answers from the couple that truly lasted till “death did them apart”:

1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?

With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure. Divorce was NEVER EVER an option, or even a thought.

2. How did you know your spouse was the one for you?

We grew up together and were best friends before we got married. A friend is for life; but our marriage lasted a lifetime.

3. Is there anything you would do differently after 80+ years of marriage?

We wouldn’t change a single thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other and our family. (I guess there lies the secret…)

4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there for them?

Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know for sure.

5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?

Respect, support, and communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest, and true. Love each other with ALL of your heart.

6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?

Zelmyra: A hard worker and a good provider. The 1920s were hard, but Herbert wanted and provided the best for us. I married a good man!

7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?

Zelmyra: I cook dinner every day. Herbert left work early and surprised me; he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!

Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her and [that] she could relax. The look on her face and clean plate made my day! (This just made my day!)

8. You got married very young – how did you both manage to grow as individuals and not grow apart as a couple?

Everyone who plants a seed and harvests the crop celebrates together. We are individuals, but accomplish more together.

9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?

Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.

10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?

The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.

11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?

Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.

12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?

Remember marriage is not a contest, never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win.

13. Is fighting important?

Never physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, and fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break!

14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?

We are both Christians and believe in God. Marriage is a commitment to the Lord. We pray with and for each other every day.

Zelmyra and Herbert had an inspiring marriage, and we are lucky to have their advice. After 87 years, it was clear that they were as in love as the day they were married.

In 2011, Herbert passed away at 105, and a few years later in 2013, Zelmyra followed at 105 years old as well. When Herbert passed, the couple had been married for 87 years.

Being committed for life is not easy, but it can be done! We all can use every help and advice we can get! If you treasured a bit of this profound love advice, please pass some of it on to your friends on social media. Everyone should know this!

A carrot, eggs, and coffee are used by Grandmother to teach wisdom.

We might all benefit from some good advice now and then. Many of us turn to our grandparents for comfort while we are struggling to weather one of life’s storms. A grandmother delivers some simple wisdom to her grandchild in this widely shared Internet anecdote.

Despite the fact that the author of this essay is unknown, their wise words are universal and can be enjoyed by everybody.

At the beginning of the story, a young woman visits her grandmother. She is concerned about the state of her life and needs help. Her grandmother answers by giving her a carrot, eggs, and coffee…

A young woman visited her grandmother and informed her about her life and how terrible things had gotten. She was terrified and wanted to give up because she had no idea how she would make it. She was tired of battling and struggling. As soon as one issue was overcome, another one arose.

She was accompanied to the kitchen by her granny. She filled three pots halfway with water and placed them on high heat. The pots rapidly boiled over. She put carrots in the first, eggs in the second, and ground coffee beans in the third. She remained there silently for them to boil.

After around twenty minutes, she turned off the stoves. She took the carrots and put them in a bowl. She then removed the eggs from the carton and placed them in a bowl. She then poured the coffee into a bowl after ladling it out.

‘Tell me what you see,’ she asked of her granddaughter. ‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ she said.

“She drew her in and requested that she feel the carrots.” She did, and she was struck by how soft they were. She then told her to break an egg.

After removing the shell, she studied the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she invited her to try a sip of her coffee. The girl smiled as she smelled the beautiful scent.

“What does that mean, Grandmother?” asked the granddaughter. While all of these objects were subjected to the same difficulty – boiling water — they each behaved differently, according to her grandmother.

The carrot was tough and uncompromising. When exposed to boiling water, however, it melted and weakened.

The egg was delicate. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. However, after being immersed in boiling water, its core solidified.

The ground coffee beans, on the other hand, were one-of-a-kind. Once they were in the hot water, they changed the water.

‘Which one of you are you?’ she inquired of her granddaughter. ‘How do you deal with adversity when it knocks on your door? “Would you like to be a carrot, egg, or coffee bean?”

“Consider this: Who am I? “Am I the carrot that appears strong but is filled with anguish and adversity?” “Am I going to wilt, weaken, and lose my strength?”

“Am I the egg with a malleable heart that changes in response to heat?” Is my spirit alive and well, but have I become harsh and rigid as a result of a death, a breakup, a financial struggle, or another adversity? Does my outward appearance match my inner bitterness and toughness, with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

“Do I look like a coffee bean?” The bean actually changes the hot water, which causes the agony. When the water becomes hot, the aroma and flavor of your life are released.

When circumstances are at their worst, if you are like the bean, you improve and adapt the situation around you. Do you advance when the hours are the darkest and the difficulties are the most severe?

This incident made me think about who I am in challenging situations. Which of these are you? Should I have a carrot, an egg, or a cup of coffee?

Tell your friends and relatives about this parable! 

Patrick Hardison Received A New Face After Third-degree Burns, This Is Him Today

You probably heard a lot of mind-blowing stories, but the one about the life of Patrick Hardison from Mississippi is about to blow you out of your socks!

Back in 2015, Patrick was the first man to receive a face transplant after he was caught in a burning house that left his face completely disfigured back in 2001.

He began on a humble path as a volunteer firefighter earlier in his life. Whenever his help was needed, he didn’t hesitate a second, until one day a house collapsed on top of him and trapped him. His torso and face were severely burnt.

“[My mask] was melting to my face,” Patrick recalled a terrible memory. “My hose [was] already melted.”

“For somebody who does what we do for a living, I’ve never seen anybody burned that bad that was still alive,” friend and first responder Jimmy Neal told CBS News of seeing Patrick after the accident.

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Patrick’s burns on his face and scalp were classified as 3rd degree burns. He also had burns on his head, neck and upper torso. His lips were completely destroyed along with most of his nose and eyelid tissue.

“I didn’t actually see myself until probably November. I got injured in September,” Patrick told Fox News. “They had cut a little pinhole in one of my eyelids because they had everything covered, skin graft. I looked in the mirror and all I could do, I said, ‘this is it? I can’t do this,’” he recalled.

Believe it or not, Patrick had to sustain over 70 surgeries and other procedures. He couldn’t close his eyes and doctors managed to put together flaps of skin to protect his vision, but there was always the risk of going blind…

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Every time he ate, the pain was insurmountable. He couldn’t stand to look himself in the mirror, and everywhere he went people starred at him. He couldn’t hang around with people, even with his own children…

To protect himself and his look, Patrick always had a baseball cap and sunglasses on him. He also had ear prosthetic.

“I had kids. It was just a tough time. I never got a day off from the injury. When you walk out in public, it was daily. And, you know, it’s just so — there’s no way to explain everything,” he told Yahoo! Sports.

“You go to the ball field, you have to prepare yourself for the kid that goes running off screaming.”

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Patrick lost all hope to have a “normal” life, but it all changed when a French woman Isabelle Dinoire got a face transplant after her dog disfigured most of it. This procedure was revolutionary and it gave Patrick hope that he could be the next standing in line.

He met with doctor Eduardo D. Rodriguez from the NYU Langone Medical Center in New York who promised him he’ll do everything he could to do the face transplant as successful as possible IF they find a matching donor. One day LiveOnNY, a nonprofit that coordinates organ donations in the New York found a match.

The 26-year-old David Rodebaugh sustained a severe head injury in a bike accident and has been declared as brain dead. His face was going to be transplanted on Patrick’s.

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Nancy Millar, David Rodebaugh’s mother, decided to donate her son’s organs, including his face: “I said, ‘You better save his face. He has the face of a porcelain doll.’ And he’s a donor — we had talked about it,” Millar told People.

She hoped that her sons legacy, or at least a part of him, will be used to save someone else’s life, including Patrick’s.

“When I met Patrick, I saw this strength, this strong, manly, burly kind of energy in him — that David had,” Nancy recalled.

“David wanted to be a firefighter, an I knew if this guy was a firefighter — he was willing to walk into a fire to save people and risk his own life — then he had the strength that David had.”

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The day finally came, and the procedure was performed by 100s of professionals and lasted for 26 hours.

Of course, with every surgery comes a risk, and this one had a 50/50 percent chance of survival. But Patrick was lucky to be under the wing of hundreds of professionals. He received a new face, scalp, ears, ear canals and eyelids which allowed him to blink naturally and save his vision.

“Everything in life has a risk,” Patrick told Time Magazine.

“When it’s your time to go, you’ll go—whether you’re walking down the street and get hit by a car or you’re lying on the operating table.”

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After the swelling was better and he learned how to talk and swallow again, Patrick met with Nancy, the donor’s mother. She had one heartwarming request: to kiss Patrick on the forehead.

“I said, ‘Can I kiss your forehead?’” Nancy said. “That’s the one thing I wanted to do because every night before David went to bed when he was little, I kissed his forehead.”

“I’ve been waiting a year to meet her. I’m just very grateful,” Patrick added. “Without her, it wouldn’t have been possible. It’s like she’s family. We connected that easily.”

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Patrick and people who receive an organ transplant take anti-rejection medications which suppress your body’s natural defence system (immune system) to prevent it from recognizing your transplant as a “foreign invader” and attacking it. However, Patrick is thriving with his new life and facial outlook.

Today he is divorced and is working on a book that will help people who think there’s no way out of a situation they put themselves in.

“Because I want to show the world that you can have hope. I wouldn’t want people that were like me years ago to think that’s it, I have to live like this. You don’t. You can accomplish anything,” Patrick says.

His overall recovery, and the chance of him surviving the accident are dubbed miraculous. Thanks to all the professionals that fixed his face, along with the generous offer from Nancy, Patrick is a happy man today.

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At First They Thought It’s Just A Bruise But Doctor Told Them About The Diagnosis

 All of us are unique and beautiful since the day we were born. Some kids have temper since birth, some are more calm, but on the outlook everyone is different.

One of the greatest things about being human is that we are built exactly the same and nowadays we’ve evolved to a degree to accept and celebrate our differences.

Nicole Hall fears that when her lovely daughter Winry grows up she could have a hard life because of her unique outlook. She is dedicated to promote awareness about congenital melanocytic nevi.

What Is Congenital Melanocytic Nevi (CMN)?

Moles present from birth, or that develop within the first few months after birth, are called congenital melanocytic nevi (CMN).

They are fairly common and, in most cases, they do not cause health problems. However, they can carry risks. Most cases of CMN never require treatment, but there are some cases in which the moles may be removed. This is usually done to lower the risk of skin cancer or to improve appearance…

As long as we accept the differences between one another the world will be a great place. If we divide as species because of our differences, we welcome division in coexistence.

When Winry was born she was different from the other babies. At first they thought it’s a bruise, but later on they got the diagnosis: congenital melanocytic nevi.

“When they first handed her to me, I thought it was a bruise. It was then quickly apparent to my husband and I that it was not a bruise. And like the name, I thought it looked a lot like a mole,” mom Nicole Hall told Good Morning America.

Dr. Harper Price of Phoenix Children’s Hospital and Dr. Heather Etchevers of Marseille Medical Genetics, stated in a report that her condition causes black and brown patches to appear on many different parts of her body.


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As we stated earlier, like all moles, especially one with that magnitude on her face can pose a risk of developing melanoma, a type of skin cancer. The risk is relatively low, but Nicole always makes sure to cover her head when they are out in the sun. She also puts sunscreen on Winry and take every precaution.

“Her health and happiness are our top priority. We have to monitor her with sunscreen. I’m careful with hats and that sort of thing. I know our regular dermatology appointment is probably going to be our best friend growing up,” Nicole says.

Winry’s parents are aware that there are unkind people who will point at her, stare and call her words in school. That’s why they are dedicated to help raise awareness about her condition.

“For a lot of people, this is the first time seeing a birthmark like hers and that’s part of why I enjoy sharing,” Nicole says. “This is a good conversation for parents with their children to see kids have differences, or for those parents who do have a kid that looks like Winry or has any kind of a birthmark to see their child represented.”

Winry is very positive and healthy kid, and her parents hope that she accepts her look while she’s young to be able to cope later in life.

“She just radiates joy. She’s almost always laughing or shrieking. She is just the happiest baby I have ever seen,” shared the mom. “She’s a big talker already. We haven’t got a whole lot of words out, but she tells you like it is and she’s already getting a little bit of sassiness, so I think we’re gonna have a lot on our hands.”

Through social media, especially TikTok, Nicole is spreading awareness about her daughters condition, and parents who have kids with CMN are already joining the cause.

They know they are not alone.

Nurse Reveals The Top 5 Regrets Of People Right Before They Died

 

When questioned about any regrets people make, or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five.

1. “I Wish I had the Courage to Live a Life True to Myself and Not for Others”

When you are living the last days of your life it is common to reflect on past actions that were left undone more than the ones that were acted upon.

“Most people had not honored even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made or not made,” stated Ware.

Giving up on personal goals for the sake of others usually leads you to immense regret.

2. “I Wish I hadn’t Worked so Hard”

This regret is common to most people who regret not spending enough time with their families due to extensive work schedules. This was the case with almost every male patient Ware talked to.

Getting caught up in the rat race and over-working ourselves to achieve name, fame, success, and money at the cost of avoiding family trips and personal assignments usually result in a state of disillusionment and extreme regret that we realize, but not before it is too late…

3. “I wish I had the Courage to express my Feelings”

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. “I Wish I had stayed in Touch with my Friends”

There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Ware states “Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down.”

Figure out who matter most to you in life, and make sure you have them by your side.

5. “I Wish I had let myself be Happier”

Happiness is a choice rather than a consequence of situations. It is important we make choices based on our happiness and not our fears.

Ware expressed “Fear of change had them pretending to others and to their selves that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly.”

Fear is the only thing that holds us back from experiencing happiness and appreciating life to the fullest. Do not leave room for regret in your last days. Act on your choices and be as happy as you wish to be.

Family beat million-to-one odds after second set of twins with different skin colors – 'It's amazing'

Seeing the Durrant family in its entirety is something to behold, a family of six that are not only striking but have beaten some pretty impressive odds.

When couple Alison Spooner and Dean Durrant had their first set of twins in 2001 the arrival instantly caught everyone’s attention..

   

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Perhaps the most fantastic thing about life on this planet is the unpredictable nature of things.

Sure, there are times when the unexpected can be upsetting, or even heartbreaking, but there are also plenty of occasions wherein we’re pleasantly surprised by something we thought would never happen.

Alison Spooner and Dean Durrant look like an average couple from the outside, but it turns out their genes are special indeed. This is evidenced in the miracle that occurred in not just one set of twins they had, but two …

In 2001, twin sisters Hayleigh and Lauren Durrant, from Hampshire, England, were born with different skin colors. One of the twins was white like their mother, and the other was Black like their father.

When Alison and Dean first discovered they were pregnant with twins, they assumed their babies would take after both of them. When Alison gave birth to Laura and Hayleigh in 2001, however, the parents were met with a surprise.

Laura had inherited her mother’s light skin, blue eyes, and red hair, while her twin sister had much taken after her father.

Of course, Alison and Dean were astounded, as were their families. Yet while the phenomenon is extremely rare, it’s not altogether unheard of.

Growing up wasn’t always easy as their parents had to field questions about how this could have happened and comments of disbelief, and then the girls would face questions from their friends at school.

On the twins’ 18th birthday in 2019, Hayleigh, who has dark skin and hair like her dad Dean, spoke exclusively with The Sun saying they weren’t always accepted.

“Some people can be really rude. They’ll say, ‘You’re lying, you aren’t twins – prove it!’ So we’ll reel off the same address or pull our passports out. It’s nice to see the shock on people’s faces.

“When we went to college it was difficult because there were lots of groups of Asian, white and black kids. The black group were trying to integrate me and I was like, ‘This is my white twin sister.’ No one could believe it. People look at us like it’s some kind of miracle. I’m still amazed that we are twins.”

Meanwhile, Lauren, who has her mother’s green eyes and fair hair, said, “People just assume we’re best friends rather than sisters, let alone twins.

“I’m happy with that because she is my best friend.”

For a biracial couple expecting twins, there is about a 1 in 500 chance those twins will have different skin colors, according to the BBC.

Fast forward seven years and Alison found herself pregnant again … with another set of twins! As Laura and Hayleigh turned 7, their mom gave birth to another set of twin sisters where the same thing happened, and the family made headlines again.

This time around, Alison was induced at 37 weeks when doctors found that her babies were in the breech position. Immediately after the delivery, the babies were rushed to intensive care due to problems with their breathing, meaning Alison and Dean didn’t get the chance to see them properly.

When they could finally look upon their new babies, though, they realized that they’d defied yet more odds … they had another set of miracle biracial twins!

The girls, Leah and Miya, also had different complexions, making them the only family in the world with two sets of biracial twins. The record family soon also found their way to the Guinness World Records.

Dr. Sarah Jarvis from the Royal College of General Practitioners told CBS News, that even non-identical twins aren’t that common.

“To have two eggs fertilized and come out different colors less common so to have it happen twice must be one in millions,” she added.

“I’m almost blown away as the rest of them, there’s no easy way to explain it all,” proud dad Dean told CBS News. “I’m still in shock myself even though the first ones were 7 years ago, it’s amazing.”

Leah and Miya are helped by their two older sisters who have been able to guide them through the challenges.

“The younger ones idolise the older ones and are always copying them. It’s like having two Mini-Mes,” said their father.

“They are best friends and close in every way, apart from looking different. It took me some years to understand the science of how they could appear so different,” their mom added.

Leah shared: “Lauren and Hayleigh are my heroes. I like my older sisters. We want to be like them when we are grown-up.”

The girls realize they are lucky to have each other and, despite their physical differences, said that they are similar in many ways. 

Hayleigh explained: “We say the same things at the same time and finish each other’s sentences. Sometimes I know exactly what she is thinking.”

The world works in mysterious ways, but one thing’s for sure: Alison and Dean are lucky to have been blessed in such a way.

Such a strikingly beautiful family that could teach us all a thing or two about celebrating our differences.