How to Release Attachments to Past Relationships


HOW TO RELEASE ATTACHMENTS TO PAST RELATIONSHIPS

BE WILLING TO RELEASE THE ATTACHMENT

Why we hold onto baggage is different for everyone. We might use it to shield us from future hurt, we might use it to help propel us into action, we might use it to allow us to feel certain emotions and we might use it to keep us from moving forward. Any action motivated by the baggage we hold onto is not serving us.
We often want to release the baggage, when in some way it is giving us something we think we need.  We know it isn’t healthy but on some level we keep justifying it to ourselves. Letting go of the baggage is hard and doesn’t happen overnight, but we have to start with the affirmation that it is what we need to do.

JOURNAL

We should start writing down our thoughts, beliefs and the behaviors that affect our mood. Be honest and just write anything that comes to mind. Create a judgment-free zone where we are able to be real with ourselves. As we continue to write, we will start to notice patterns and triggers. Triggers that we can begin to recognize and change.

CHALLENGE THE STORY

We write our life’s story from our perspective. If the story is not contributing positively to our current reality, it is up to us to challenge it. Our story is from our point of view, as it should be. But to begin to let go of the baggage, it is helpful take a step outside of our story and write it from another perspective. Another perspective helps us to release the overwhelming emotion we feel and can help us break the hold it has on us.

FIND THE POSITIVE

Every relationship serves a purpose in our lives, even the bad ones. Our goal should be to find something positive that will help us reframe how we look at the relationship.
Maybe the relationship helped define acceptable behaviors, maybe it helped us become stronger and more resilient, maybe it helped us become more grateful for small moments. We can only begin to let go once we stop focusing on the bad and shift our focus to the silver lining, however small.

TREAT OTHERS WITH KINDNESS

It is easy to treat kind people with kindness but make it a goal to treat everyone with kindness – even those less deserving. This shifts our focus from past bad behaviors to future good ones. When we stop letting the bad behaviors of past relationships determine our future actions, we can begin to let go.

VISUALIZE YOUR OWN VERSION OF HAPPY

As we begin to separate ourselves from the baggage it is important to visualize what our happiness without it looks like.
How do we feel and act in our relationships with others. How does our time alone make us feel? How do we make decisions without the baggage as an influence?
Once we have a clear vision of what life is like without our dependence on our baggage, it is easier to make choices with that future in mind.

RELEASE EXPECTATIONS

As we begin to act independent of our baggage, it is important to move forward with expectations. It is our expectations that will keep us tied the behaviors of our past relationships. We often times have expectations, some of which are unrealistic, without even realizing it. That is why journaling is so important. You will become aware of when the baggage is creeping in. Source

10 Signs Your Partner Is Going to Cheat

HERE ARE 10 SIGNS OF A POTENTIAL CHEATER:

1. THEY’RE EMOTIONALLY DISTANT

For the victim, this is pretty easy to observe but extraordinarily difficult to accept. Emotional detachment from someone you love is like a punch to the heart. Unfortunately, this disconnection is too often a prelude to relationship deterioration. For a potential cheater, it’s easier to distance oneself emotionally from someone than to confront the real problem. It’s a cowardly act, in many ways.

2. LACK OF SEX OR INTIMACY

When two people are in love with one another, it is natural for intimacy and/or sex to take place. In the event that the other person shows no interest in either, it may be a sign of infidelity. This is especially true is no prior issues existed in this area. If nothing else, this behavior is indicative of some type of emotional or physical disconnect. Regardless, given the importance of physical connection in a relationship, a serious discussion is in order.

3. THE NEED FOR “PRIVACY”

This is not to disregard the reality that every person – in a  relationship or otherwise – requires a period of “me time,” and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. However, when the other half constantly says things like to “I need to be alone,” “Just let me be,” “I need some time to think,” etc. on an all-too-frequent basis there is almost certainly some type of problem.

4. A SUDDEN DEFENSIVE ATTITUDE

It’s normal for two people in a serious relationship to understand the differences between each other’s personalities. Flaws are generally understood and subsequently accepted. It is peculiar, then, for one half to suddenly become defensive regarding any observable shift in behavior. Rational dialogue is a necessity for any relationship; if this becomes a problem, then there’s likely some type of problem.

5. IRREGULAR FINANCIAL HABITS

Two people involved in a serious relationship understand the importance of monetary resources. Usually, any outgoing money is acknowledged and accounted for. If your partner, all of a sudden, drifts from this mutual understanding and engages in “splurges” for which they cannot account for, it may indeed be a sign of detachment at best – and infidelity, at worst.

6. BECOMING “FASHION-CONSCIOUS”

We all want to look our best for various reasons; most commonly, to look respectable and professional. However, an abrupt change in appearance without explanation is uncommon, especially for those who have shown little interest in the past. Those in a midlife crisis often cite a change in fashion as a sort of “motivation” to look younger and more presentable. Of course, the desire to appear more attractive to the opposite sex is a very real possibility.

7. THEY IGNORE YOUR “INNER CIRCLE”

One telltale sign of a cheater is a sudden disconnect from your circle of friends. It seems strange and may be a forewarning of some relationship problem. For cheaters, it is much easier and convenient to separate from those close to you than to be upfront about their true feelings. This is even more conspicuous if your other half and social circle were close at one point in time.

8. THEY GUARD THEIR PHONE/COMPUTER/ETC.

Nobody likes having their phone tampered with. In a serious relationship or marriage, however, it isn’t strange to meddle around with your partners phone. Really, it’s not that big of a deal…unless they either have something to hide, or are simply in a bad mood. If your significant other suddenly and atypically objects to what, was at one time, not an issue than it may warrant additional caution.

9. THEY’RE ALWAYS EXCESSIVELY LATE

Anyone in a committed relationship will tell you that a schedule is paramount to making things work. This is especially true if someone is married, has kids, or other obligations for which they are responsible for. A sudden abdication of responsible behavior is strange, particularly if that person cannot account for such conduct.

10. “SOMETHING CAME UP AT WORK”

Things happen at work. Sometimes, we’re asked to go “above and beyond” in order to do our jobs. Similar to many other things on this list, context is key. If your partner cannot explain the rationale behind such requests, then something is amiss. Having to work is a common and convenient excuse because it is so commonplace. That said, your partner should be able to fill you in.

8 Foods That Reverse Hair Loss in No Time!


It is not a very big problem if you notice some hair loss. It is quite usual for people to lose about 50-100 hairs per day. This is not really noticeable and concerning, because at the same place new hair starts to grow. But if there are some bald spots or thinning areas, thus occurs due to some interruption in the process of growing and shedding.

There are many things that contribute to hair loss, like:
1. Family History: this is the most frequent cause for hair loss, and it often happens in predictable patterns and slowly with time; like thinning hair in women and bald spots and receding hairline in men.
2. Medical Conditions: Hair loss can be a result of scalp diseases and infection which lead to scarring.
3. Hormonal Changes: Temporary hair loss can also be a result of hormonal changes and imbalances such as the onset of menopause, childbirth or pregnancy. The thyroid gland is also connected to hormone levels, so hair loss can happen also due to thyroid problems.
4. Medications: Drugs can also cause hair loss such as: birth control pills and medications used for high blood pressure, heart problems, depression, arthritis and cancer.
It is a very annoying problem to lose your hair. In order to find the solution for it, you must discover what the root cause is. When you know that it is not any health problems that are causing hair loss, then you can treat your problem with these natural remedies that are very beneficial in preventing hair loss and they will also enable the growth of a healthy hair:

1. INDIAN GOOSEBERRY

Amla is the second name of Indian gooseberry, and this plant is abundant in vitamin C. Hair loss is also a result of insufficient amount of vitamin C in the body. Indian gooseberry is also very helpful in promoting hair growth and a healthy scalp due to it exfoliating, antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties.
  • Make a mixture with 1 tablespoon of lemon juice and 1 tablespoon of Indian gooseberry.
  • Then use this mixture to massage the scalp and cover your hair.
  • Keep the shower cap during the night, and in the morning wash your hair with a shampoo.

2. CHINESE HIBISCUS

Chinese hibiscus is another natural remedy that is highly efficient in case of hair loss, and it has the power to hinder premature graying, heal split ends, eliminate dandruff, thicken your hair and also promote hair growth.
  • Take 2 cups of coconut oil and put 10 dried Chinese hibiscus flowers
  • Then put this mixture on your hair, cover it with a shower cap and leave it during the night. In the morning wash your hair.
  • Do this procedure a few times a week.

3. BEETROOT

Beetroot is rich in all the necessary nutrients for healthy hair growth such as: vitamins B and C, calcium, potassium and protein.
  • Just consume some beetroot juice in your daily diet, and you can combine it together with carrot juice, lettuce juice, alfalfa juice and spinach juice.

4. COCONUT MILK

Coconut milk is another amazing natural remedy to prevent hair loss and also promotes hair growth due to its content rich in essential fats and protein.
  • Just add a freshly grated coconut to a pan of water and you will make coconut milk
  • Then leave it to simmer for about 5 minutes and strain it
  • When it gets cooled down, massage it on the scalp in your hair.
  • Let the mixture act for about 20 minutes and then shampoo the hair and wash it.
Coconut oil can be used in many beauty treatments like a hair mask which can make your hair stronger and hydrated.

5. LICORICE ROOT

Licorice root has many beneficial effects on the scalp, like eliminating scalp irritations like dandruff flakes, soothes the scalp and opens the pores. So it is used as a natural treatment for baldness, hair loss and dandruff.
  • Mix ¼ teaspoon of saffron, 1 cup of milk and 1 tablespoon of round licorice root
  • Mix all the ingredients well and then apply this mixture on the bald areas before you go to bed.
  • Leave it to act during the night and then shampoo the hair and wash it in the morning.
  • You can repeat this procedure 1-2 times a week.

6. ALOE VERA

Aloe Vera is rich in enzymes that can help you and promote growth of your hair. It also has alkalizing properties that are very beneficial in maintaining healthy pH of the scalp and hair.
If you use Aloe Vera on a regular basis, it can eliminate dandruff and also treat scalp inflammation and itching.
  • Use Aloe Vera juice or gel on your scalp.
  • Let it to act for a couple of hours and then wash the hair
  • Do this procedure about 3-4 times a week

7. FENUGREEK

Fenugreek contains a lot of hormone antecedents and it can rebuild hair follicles and promote hair growth, and due to this it is commonly used as a treatment for hair loss. It also is rich in nicotinic acid and proteins which help in stimulating hair growth.
  • Just put 1 cup of fenugreek in some water, and leave during the night
  • The next morning, make a paste by grinding them
  • Then massage the scalp and hair with it and use a shower cap to cover the hair
  • Let it act for about 40 minutes then wash the hair
  • Repeat the procedure every day for 30 days

8. FLAXSEEDS

Flaxseeds are abundant in Omega-3 fatty acids, and they are very beneficial in hindering hair loss and they also promote hair growth.
  • Just take 1 tablespoon of freshly ground flaxseed every morning together with 1 glass of water. You can also combine the flaxseeds with soups, smoothies and salads.

The Best Job Interview Answers Ever. This Man Just Nailed It.


Moment of thinking… These are few questions asked in HR interview! The answers are really stunning and inspiring. Thinking out of the box! A must read…

Question 1:

You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night, it’s raining heavily, when suddenly you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for a bus:

* An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.

* An old friend who once saved your life.

* The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.

Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing very well that there could only be one passenger in your car?

This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.

He simply answered:
“I would give the car keys to my Old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams.”

Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to “Think Outside of the Box.”

Question 2:

What will you do if I run away with your sister?

The candidate who was selected answered ” I will not get a better match for my sister than you sir”

Question 3:

Interviewer (to a student girl candidate) – What is one morning you woke up & found that you were pregnant.

Girl – I will be very excited and take an off, to celebrate with my husband.

Normally an unmarried girl will be shocked to hear this, but she managed it well. Why I should think it in the wrong way, she said later when asked.

Question 4:

Interviewer: He ordered a cup of coffee for the candidate. Coffee arrived kept before the candidate, then he asked what is before you?

Candidate: Instantly replied “Tea”

He got selected.

You know how and why did he say “TEA” when he knows very well that coffee was kept before.

(Answer: The question was “What is before you (U – alphabet) Reply was “TEA” ( T – alphabet)

Alphabet “T” was before Alphabet “U”

15 Things Men Really Want In A Relationship

What men really want in a relationship are not superficial things in a relationship, such as the most beautiful girl with the best hourglass figure and looks, and a woman that is going to perform the best sexually. Men are looking for more complex attributes in a relationship.


1. Most times women hold back on taking the lead in a relationship, whereas men prefer his woman to take a lead occasionally. Even if he is a born leader this does not mean that, he expects to and enjoys this position all the time.

2. Men enjoy receiving respect. The other side of this is that women must win respect for the man and the man must win the respect of the woman. Very few people enjoy being belittled, being the butt of a joke or being mocked at. No one is perfect, this both the man and woman needs to be respected for who they are and both appreciates this set of values.

3. People in general enjoy the admiration for whom and what they are and have accomplished. All a man wants is the admiration of his woman in all phases of his life.

4. Men enjoy his woman to be gentle with him. He does not enjoy the fact that because he is the man of the house he needs to keep a stiff upper lip. Cuddling, hugging, reassurance of the woman’s love for him goes a long way in a relationship.

5. Men feel confident when they know their partner accepts for who they really are. Men feel secure when they know the woman understands them. It is only when the man knows he is accepted for who he is that he tries to make changes.

6. Men want to be able to verbally communicate with their partner. Unexpressed communication builds walls in a relationship.

7. Men want women to use some common sense when around other people, knowing when and when not to talk.

8. Women need to know that her partner just enjoys being a man with other men.

9. If the man’s partner has, friends that he really cannot stand being around do not make him spend hours with that person or persons.

10. A man enjoys his partner showing interest in his activities. A man appreciates it when his partner sits down to enjoy what he is doing such as watching a football game.

11. Every couple goes through trying times. Women expect the man to be strong, but secretly the man hopes the same in his partner, to be strong and weather the storm with him. Men do not appreciate being a babysitter for a weak woman.

12. Never let on to the man that his mother is one of the worst human beings on earth. Men want their mother and partner to get along and be happy. Women need to do what they can to prune this relationship.

Here Is How To Drink Water To Lose Weight. You Will Be Surprised With The Result !


Maybe it sounds impossible, but water is a very successful step you need to make if you are trying to lose weight. Your body consists of nearly 70% water, so the plentiful hydration is more than required. Our body will lose lots of water throughout the day, so we need to replace in properly.
Water is the first and most important step in your weight-loss journey. Water will increase our metabolic process, which means we will be capable to burn calories faster, it cleanse your body of waste and acts as appetite suppressant. By consuming coffee, refined food such as processed oils, canned foods, carbonated drinks, our body gets acidic.Additionally, water decreases the acidic levels. It helps flush toxins from our body. Being dehydrated has real consequences: you’ll get sugar cravings, get afternoon headaches and feel tired. So what can you do to make sure you’re drinking the recommended 8 to 10 glasses per day to keep yourself hydrated and encourage weight loss?

HERE ARE SOME TIPS ON HOW YOU CAN DRINK MORE WATER:

Have always a bottle of water with you. Have it wherever you go and drink at it during the day. Drinking a glass of water before every meal can reduce appetite.The feeling of fullness will help you eat less, thus consuming fewer calories for improved weight loss resultsStudies of older adults have shown that drinking water before each meal may increase weight loss by 2 kg over a 12-week period.In one study, middle-aged overweight and obese participants who drank water before each meal lost 44 percent more weight, compared to a group that did not drink more water.
Drinking ice cold water helps boost your metabolism because your body has to work harder to warm the water up, therefore burning more calories and helping you to lose weight. Plus, ice cold water is just so much more refreshing than water that’s room temperature.
It’s fine to use some flavors to your water, like lemons or limes. Cut them into the slice and put them in the bottle. Furthermore, you can include cucumber slices. It includes 96% water content and mineral balance. Cucumber can provide very similar hydration levels to twice the volume of water.
Other vegetables that can hydrate you more can be added too.If water is not your favorite, you can add some flavor of tea and drink it instead during the day.

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE GETTING ENOUGH WATER?

A general rule is to check the toilet after you’ve gone to the bathroom. You’ll know you’re well hydrated if your urine is clear or very light yellow in color. The darker your urine, the more water you need to drink, especially if weight loss is your goal.

You Think That 120/80 Is A Normal Blood Pressure: You Are Completely Wrong!


The normal blood pressure reading is usually considered 120 over 80. However, the ESC Association claims otherwise. According to the new guidelines the normal blood pressure is actually 140 systolic (the top measurement number) and 90 diastolic (bottom measurement number).
This does not include diabetics whose blood pressure limit is 130 over 80 as well as for the elderly.
In the past the blood pressure reading of 139 over 89 was considered a hypertension and the person was advised to immediately take medicine in order to prevent heart attack or stroke from occurring as a result.
Low blood pressure is considered a reading that is less than 90 mmHg systolic and less than 60 mmHg diastolic. Extremely low blood pressure is less than 80 mmHg systolic over 50 mmHg diastolic. You should consult your doctor if you experience a sudden blood pressure drop.
Low blood pressure is not a concern if it does not cause any alarming symptoms such as abnormal heart rate, dizziness or headaches.
It is very important to know your normal blood pressure range because it could help diagnose hypertension in case you develop it. Hypertension is a condition that can cause serious health issues which is why it must be diagnosed and treated.

If Your Guy Does These 14 Things, Congrats! You Found a Real Man

Almost every woman dreams of finding the perfect man who has all the qualities she requires him to have. However, it is not that easy to find one person who has everything that you want and need. Still you should not lose hope, instead start by learning the difference between boys and men.
Try to find a man who will speak his mind, has a sense of humor, who is not ashamed to show his love, and dresses and speaks well.

These are the qualities that a true gentleman should possess:
1. A true gentleman pays attention to his personal hygiene including trimming nose hairs and cleaning his nails.
2.This man has a strong character, a career and a personal life and is also sophisticated.
3. A gentleman does not wait for too long to call a woman. He calls her to invite her to dinner; he makes the reservations and has a great time.
4. A true gentleman tells a girl whether he is interested or not. In case he is not he always makes sure that she knows he had a great time with her. He appreciates her time and tells her that he is not interested in the relationship becoming more serious.
5.This man reads lots of books and newspapers; he is well informed and has his own opinion about everything. He knows that not everything he reads or hears is a fact so he values the opinion of someone who disagrees with him. He even enjoys engaging in a good debate.
6.The real man is a true gentleman who shows a woman that he cares about her by opening the door for her or taking her coat.
7. He values the woman so if he wants to have a sexual relation he first seduces her instead of forcing her into doing something she does not want to. He is well aware that he should firs conquer other parts of the woman body.
8. Even though he enjoys knowing that a woman likes him he does not want to be chased, instead he prefers to be the one in charge in courting.
9. He loves an independent woman who is financially stable to pay for her own bills and expenses. This type of woman is the one he wants beside him.
10. He a woman who will love him for his character and personality rather than his financial status.
11.This man prefers a woman who shares the same qualities he has such as having a career hobby, family and close friends.
12. He knows who he is, what he wants and what he does not. He appreciates honesty very much and believes that if he can be honest with himself he can be honest with others too.
13. He is very proud of the woman he is with and is not afraid to show it through the way he looks or acts.
14. A gentleman is a man, not a boy. He wants to find the perfect woman for him not a girl. He tries to find the woman who shares the same qualities with him but also has something to teach him. He will not settle for anything, he takes his time searching for the right woman and once he finds her he will fight for her. And when the woman finds the man with the right qualities she should be happy about having someone like that by her side.

Say Goodbye To Bad Breath, Plaque, Tartar And Kill Harmful Bacteria In Your Mouth With Only One Ingredient


Oil pulling is a fantastic detoxification procedure that involves swishing a tablespoon of oil in your mouth. This ancient dental technique only takes 15-20 minutes of your time but it provides amazing results. It removes the toxins from your body and also improves oral and general health. Oil pulling works wonders for the health of the teeth and gums too and it can also make your teeth whiter and brighter.
Those who have tried oil pulling claim that it has also helped them with other health conditions such as: arthritis, asthma, infections, hormonal imbalance, headaches and skin conditions. Oil pulling is primarily used for improving the oral health. Keep reading to learn how to perform this technique in order to remove plaque, dental tartar and bad breath once and for all.
How to perform it?
Oil pulling is very simple. You just need a couple of teaspoons of any vegetable oil such as coconut, olive or sesame oil. Put the oil in your mouth and swish it for about 20 minutes. Make sure not to swallow any of the oil because it contains the bacteria that were in your mouth. Spit it out and then rinse with water. Oil pulling is most efficient if performed in the morning before you eat or drink anything or at night before you go to bed.
Instructions:
Put 1-2 teaspoons of any vegetable oil that you prefer and swish it for about 20 minutes. Spit it out and rinse your mouth with lukewarm water. The oil thickens during the swishing and it should be white and creamy when you spit it. In the end, brush your teeth as you usually do.
Keeping a spoonful of oil in your mouth may be hard at first but you will get used to it. Performing oil pulling regularly will make your smile bright and white in a matter of days.

Take This Before You Go To Bed And Remove Stomach Fat Fast!


Excess abdominal fat is something that bothers many people all around the world. Most of the people who have this issue want to resolve it in a fast and efficient way. These people are struggling to find the best solution that will help them burn the unwanted fat in a more efficient way than diets that usually last too long. The liver, lungs, kidneys and colon are the organs responsible for cleansing the body, and in case they don’t work properly fat starts to accumulate around the waist.
Miracle bedtime drink that will help you get rid of stomach fat
If you belong to the group of people that has trouble removing the unwanted belly fat don’t worry because we have prepared the perfect remedy for you. The following recipe will improve your immune system, it will cleanse toxins from your body, it will boost the metabolism thus burn abdominal fat very fast.
Ingredients:
  • ½ lemon
  • Bunch of parsley
  • 1 cucumber
  • 1 piece of ginger root
  • 1/3 cup of water
Preparation:
Cut the cucumber into slices and mince enough parsley to fill 1 teaspoon of it. Put these and all other ingredients in a blender and blend until you create a homogenous mixture. You can add a little honey to improve the flavor.
Use:
This drink works best if consumed before bedtime. For faster and better results you should also exercise and follow a healthy diet plan while consuming this drink. This way you will boost your metabolism, burn excess fat thus improve your overall health too.

If You’ve Ever Woken Up At Night Unable To Move, Here’s What It Means.



We’ve likely all experienced it at one point or another. You’re falling asleep, or just waking up, and you go to turn on your side… but you can’t. Your legs and arms are like cement, plastered to your mattress, and you can’t move.

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This condition is called sleep paralysis and occurs when a person goes through stages of wakefulness and sleep. It is that terrifying feeling when you are still asleep but partially awake and cannot move even though you are aware of all that is going on around you.
Fortunatelly it is a very common happening and it doesn’t cause harm to the human body. Sleeping paralysis occur between two stages: “hypnagogic” and “hypnopompic”. The hypnagogic sleep paralysis happens when you are yet to fall asleep, while the hypnopompic sleep paralysis happens when you are just about to awake from your rapid eye movement (REM) sleep.
As we fall asleep, our body becomes deeply relaxed while our minds concurrently become less aware. However, when hypnagogic sleep paralysis occurs, the mind remains aware while the body achieves an involuntary state of relaxation. The person than realizes that they’re unable to move despite their efforts, often leading to feelings of panic.
On the other hand when you experience rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, dreaming is frequent, but the body’s muscles are relaxed to the point of paralysis, this is to make sure we do not physically act out our dreams. In the hypnopompic sleep paralysis, a part of your brain seems to wake up sooner than expected, while this will not influence that part of the brain that actually leads to REM paralysis, it will cause you to suddenly wake up with no control over your body for some seconds or minutes. Sufferers become alert in a transient conscious state, but they are unable to move voluntary muscles or speak.
Although involuntary muscle movement, like breathing, is not affected, there is often a sensation of chest pressure, which is why many people wake up from sleep paralysis gasping to take a deep breath.
Episodes can last anywhere from 20 seconds to a few minutes.
If you experience this once, you should not immediately seek a professional help because doctors will simply advise you to pay more attention to your sleeping habits, and sleep well for 8 hours, as lack of sleep often contributes to the occurrence of these issues.Share on PintereShare on LinkedISend

What “I love you” means.


“I love you” means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. “I love you” means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for me. ~ Jonathan Safran Foer

10 Things Alpha Women Need In A Relationship


Alpha women are strong of mind and independent in every sense of the word. They are used to taking charge and can intimidate some people. They are confident and ambitious and not afraid to tell people what is what. That kind of power can be off-putting for some partners who are either overly competitive with the Alpha Woman or too submissive to be a true partner. So what does a true Alpha Woman need to maintain a strong and healthy relationship?

HERE ARE 10 THINGS ALPHA WOMEN NEED IN A RELATIONSHIP:

1. THEY NEED TO BE CHALLENGED

A partner to an Alpha woman needs to be able to hold their own. The Alpha woman needs someone to compete with and who is secure enough in their own abilities to be gracious in victory and a good sport in defeat.

2. THEY NEED TRUST

They need to know that what they tell you in confidence will stay in that relationship vault. They need to be able to vulnerable and let their guard down once in a while. They need to trust someone not to stab them in the back for their own personal gain.

3. THEY NEED RESPECT

They need their partner to respect their decisions and not to second guess them at every turn. It is okay to challenge them before the decision is made but not afterward. They need their space and their boundaries respected as well. This also includes not being lied to for whatever reason. They need someone who doesn’t belittle them when they are angry or put them on a pedestal they will fall off of eventually.

4. THEY NEED THEIR INDEPENDENCE

They need to be able to enjoy their personal passions, their friends and do what needs to be done. They don’t need a clingy person who can’t survive for a few hours without them. They want someone like them who also has their own life outside of the relationship.

5. THEY NEED SOMEONE WHO CAN KEEP UP

Alpha women have things that have to be done and no one is going to do those things for them. They are moving at a high speed. They are time-efficient and booked solid. They need someone who can hang with them and their high-pressure and high-intensity environment.

6. THEY NEED AN EQUAL PARTNER

They need someone who is an equal partner; someone who carries their own weight in the relationship. They need someone who has their own opinions, who has their own finances in order and who has their ego in a healthy place. They need someone to walk with them, not behind them or in front of them. They don’t have to be the same or have the same opinions, hobbies or friends. They have to be a complete and self-sufficient person on their own though before they can be a partner.

7. THEY NEED TO LAUGH

They need someone who can make them laugh and lighten the mood in their often stressful and high pressure lives. They need someone who can bring a smile to their face, who can tease them and be teased in return without hurt feelings on either side.

8. THEY NEED TO BE CALLED OUT WHEN NECESSARY

They need someone who is strong and secure enough to call out an alpha woman on her own bullsh*t. Someone to remind them that they are not perfect and that they can in fact make mistakes from time to time without being a jerk about it. Everyone needs their ego checked occasionally and the alpha woman is no exception. Their power and personality makes it necessary to have someone who will reign them in a bit when they go off the rails.

9. THEY NEED SOMEONE WHO IS INFORMED

In order to be all of these things, a partner of an alpha woman has to be informed about things from current events to esoteric knowledge. They have to be able to have an intelligent conversation with the alpha woman and express ideas on her level. In the age of social media and information bubbles, it is important for the partner of an alpha woman to have a well-tuned bullsh*t detector.

10. THEY NEED SOMEONE WITH TACT

Most importantly, they need someone with tact, someone who knows when to have that intense talk about something important and when to let it go for now. They need someone who can handle their moods and emotions without ruffling feathers any more than they already are. They need someone who is thoughtful and sensitive enough to pick up on how they are feeling and to broach difficult subjects in private.

16 Reasons to Have Sex Daily


“Not tonight…my head hurts.” The infamous line that men despise. There’s many excuses to avoid frequent s*x, but perhaps if people knew the benefits, the excuses would decrease and the fun would increase.

1) Natural pain relief. S*x produces the hormone oxytocin, which can help ease pain.
2) Builds intimacy. Oxytocin also builds trust and brings couples closer together.
3) Lower blood pressure. Joseph J. Pinzone, medical director of Amai Wellness says, “Research suggests a link between s*x and lower blood pressure.”
4) Healthy heart. A study conducted by the New England Research Institute concluded that men who had frequent s*x were 45% less likely to experience heart diseases.
5) Longer life span. S*x is exercise. A healthy heart results from regular sessions.
6) Natural cure for stress. The Public Library of Science conducted an experiment using male rats, and found that the more se*ually active the rats were, the less stressed they were.
7) Fights anxiety and depression. Another advantage of those “feel-good” hormones.
8) Induces sleep. During s*x, the body produces dopamine, a substance that helps fight stress. Less stress leads to a better night’s rest.
9) Builds your immunity. More s*x increases Immunoglobulin A, an antigen that helps fight sickness.
10) Lower risk of prostate cancer. In a recent study cited by Daily Health Post, it was discovered that frequent s*x can decrease a man’s chance of developing prostate cancer by as much as 33%.
11) Helps keep you fit. Who doesn’t want to burn some calories and have fun at the same time?