Never Ask The Man Who Loves You These 10 Things

In every relationship, there are questions asked simply to fill the silence, in the heat of the moment, there are questions that are used to wound and there are always questions asked to eased one person’s anxiety about the relationship. However, psychologically speaking, there are some questions which can be harmful to your guy and harmful to your relationship. Here are ten questions you should never ask the man who loves you:

1. Do you really love me? You may say this out of insecurity, but this may make him insecure. If he feels he shows you his love, and you ask him this, he will start reflecting on what he’s done wrong for you to think he may not actually love you.

2. Why don’t you ever listen to anything I have to say? Chances are he has listened to more about you than he cares to know. This may make him defensive since he actually spends a lot of time listening to you.

3. How do you know her? Unless you have some reason to doubt his commitment to you, don’t offensively inquire about someone he was talking to. This will make him feel like you don’t trust him, and trust is so imperative to a healthy relationship.

4. Why are you so emotional? If your guy has a soft side, don’t pick at it. Chances are, he’s heard it all before, and he’s really subconscious about it. Don’t make him like he’s less than a man.

5. Why did it take you so long to call me back? This question will put pressure on him in the future. If he sees your call and can’t get to it, it will stress him out because he knows you’re going to get upset. Why do that to him?

6. Why can’t you just relax? If he’s anxious or stressed about something, all he wants to do is relax; however, he won’t be able to until what the problem was has been fixed. Don’t make him feel more anxious about being wound up.

7. Why do you keep doing that? Everyone has little tics. Some people blink oddly at times or stick their tongue out while they’re concentrating. Whatever it is your guy does, it isn’t on purpose to upset you. Don’t make him insecure by pointing this unconscious tic.

4 Signs You’re In A Selfish Relationship

Here Are 4 Signs You’re In A Selfish Relationship

1. YOUR PARTNER IS ALWAYS NAGGING AND BELITTLING YOU.

There is a difference between someone pushing and pulling you to reach your goals with a cheerleader personality, and another making you feel worthless. A selfish person will never take your needs into consideration. They will do anything possible to make you feel worthless so that things are always about them. The focus can only be on what they are accomplishing. If you find yourself giving and never receiving this is the imbalance of a selfish relationship. Psychologist Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, writes: “Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection – or compassionate action.” A relationship that is one-sided cannot flourish.

2. YOUR PARTNER BELIEVES THAT WHAT HE OR SHE DOES IS MORE IMPORTANT.

Selfish people do not waste their energies considering the needs of another, even those of a life partner. They want what they want and believe that they have the right to put themselves first. There is a difference between self-love and being selfish. This behavior is a form of betrayal. If you don’t stand up for what you want your partner doesn’t feel the need or desire to stand up for what you desire either. You must show your worthiness and love in order to combat any selfish behavior in a relationship. A selfish behavior that is repetitively present is emotionally draining and toxic. It’s unhealthy. You begin to put yourself second and eventually any respect will disappear from the relationship.

“In an individual, selfishness uglifies the soul; for the human species, selfishness is extinction.” ~ David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas

3. YOUR PARTNER IS COMPETITIVE AND INSECURE.

There is an extra entity in your relationship and it is a green-eye monster called Jealousy. A person who is always trying to outsmart or be better than his/her counterpart is an insecure person with a severe degree of selfishness. If your partner is envious of you it is because you have something he/she doesn’t have and they know it. In a healthy relationship both people growth while bringing out the best of each other.“Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy – in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other.” ~ Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land


4. YOUR PARTNER DOESN’T APOLOGIZE.

This is a big one! If your partner can’t say “I am sorry” when they have done something offensive or hurtful, it’s a sign that they might suffer from a narcissistic disorder. Moral values do not exist in this psychological disorder. The narcissist doesn’t know resentment or wrongdoing. It’s all about them. You are not important enough to stop them from seeing their mistakes. One selfish soul in a relationship diminishes the ability to love fully with joy. If your partner is driven by an egotistical nature that never regrets anything, you have a selfish soul in your presence.