Why am I Alone?

Being involved in a romantic relationship generally produces feelings of well-being and happiness. Loneliness can lead to depression and loss of self-esteem if there is no awareness of the situation.

Not having a significant other is not a synonym of being alone. There are moments when a person doesn’t want to be with someone until feeling secure and confident regarding their feelings. For other people, loneliness creates anguish and distress which may cause symptoms of depression.

The absence of a romantic partner can become a problem when we find certain situations:

• Confusing absence of a romantic partner with loneliness

• Difficulties dealing with breakups

• Involved in toxic relationships

• Fear of being in the same pattern

• Not feeling attractive

• Love myths “you only love once,” or “I need to find my soul mate ”

• Problems with communication skills or self-esteem, personality traits like narcissism, psychopathic traits, or manipulation

• Biased version of loss or breakup as personal failure

• Not accepting loss

• Indifference and coldness to others

Reasons for being alone

Some reasons people are afraid or don’t have luck in relationships is shyness, love deceptions, or negative experiences. Fear of rejection is a common fear that can lead to self-sabotage of the course of a romantic relationship. Some justify their loneliness or fear of commitment with physical or health problems, or low self-esteem. Some are truly happy in their single state and have no desire to change it.

Awareness of solitary state

• Try to understand why this situation is happening. Create an objective analysis and identify if you are self-sabotaging. Look for your desires and actions that are keeping you away from those desires.

• Ask for significant others, friends, and family their opinions about themselves and about their personal cases. You will find that you are not the only one suffering from loneliness, a void, or perpetual non-satisfaction. Realize that people who are involved in a relationship sometimes feel lonely and feel a void, a relationship is not a guarantee of happiness or support.

• Make changes in your routine, exercise and eat well, meditate, sleep well. Join community or recreational groups. Help others. Work on personal growth. Read. Stop procastinating. Eliminate toxic friends. Learn something new. Live your life with intensity, but think long-term perspective. Look for people with similar interests.

• Its important to realize that the absence of a partner is not necessarily confused with loneliness . This myth relies on ideas like: “being single is awful” or “being in a relationship equals happiness”

• If you keep thinking that you cannot achieve happiness because you are single, you will create an emptiness within yourself, not enjoying the moments and turning your thoughts and feelings into negativity that will poison your life. This false sense of unhappiness created by being alone will stop you from doing things that are usually done as a couple.

• Increase your self-confidence by standing alone. There is a stereotype that being alone is bad, society and other people make it negative, but you can still enjoy the sweet independent life. More time to enjoy for yourself, more time for your hobbies and habits, more time for personal growth. You create your own discomfort, don’t be afraid of being alone, if its positive or negative is up to you.

What Your Signature Says About You

Your signature is your public face. In our daily life we sign contracts, checks, tax forms, admission forms, bank forms, and other important documents. Many celebrities give autographs, lovers sign letters. Your signature is as unique as your fingerprints. Different people have different styles of signatures. One study found that on an average if a person is given a blank paper the first thing that they are most likely going to write first is their name, or signature. Your signature says a lot about you.

Here are some observations:

1. Size of Signature

A large signature shows a sense of high status. If your signature is larger than your handwriting, it shows higher self-esteem and confidence level.

Those whose signatures are same as their writing (medium signature) are likely to be balanced with a sense of value and modesty. These people do not act or pretend and have knowledge of how they are perceived.

A small signature shows a high degree of self-motivation. Such people do not care what other people think but are likely to have low self-confidence.

2. I-Dot Signature

A signature with i-dot’s speaks about the personality of the person. A creative i-dot signifies that the person is different from the crowd and loves to stand out. The small straight line used as an i-dot talks about the impatient behavior of a person. This person is likely to always be in hurry. No i-dot shows the person does not need heed details and finds it tough to follow minute details. A long and continuous i-dot shows creativity and intelligence.

3. Rising and Descending Signature

Most signatures are rising in direction or descending. Rising signatures show the positive attitude of the writer. Such writers are usually optimistic and have a sense of ambition. These writers have the ability to face tough times or difficulties with confidence head-on. Descending signatures depict a rough patch in your life, it can be depression or pessimism.

Those who have straight and horizontal signatures are balanced in life. These writers are generally satisfied with life and the things coming to them.

4. Signature Underline

A simple underline shows the self-reliance of the writer. Such writers like to follow rules and traditions blindly. The more stylized the underline, the more attention a writer is likely to seek. These writers love to get noticed everywhere and are ready to do anything to be the center of attention.

A zigzag underline shows uncertain behavior of the writer. If the line is toward the right it shows self-reliance of the writer while the left shows uncertainty. Long zigzag lines shows less independence.

5. Other Random Messages

A smooth signature shows the gentle, outgoing, sociable, and charming personality of the writer.

If the signature is not readable towards the end it shows impatient behavior.

If the first letter of the signature is stylized the writer is more likely to be creative and out of the crowd.

If one writes their middle name first it shows attachment to hobbies and disability to make faithful friends.

A signature which has the first and the second name interconnected shows the richness in the character and a strong parental connection.

If the first letter of the signature is stylized and in lower case it shows that the person has highly usable skills that are beneficial for others, not themselves.

Your signature can give many hints about your personality and character. Make your signature wisely as this can leave an impression and your public image to the world.