The Ripples - A Small Inspirational Story


A man was sitting by a lake. He was throwing small pebbles into it from time to time. A young boy happened to cross by. He was intrigued to see that after every few minutes or so, the man would toss a pebble into the lake.

The boy went up to the man and said, “Good pastime, this stone throwing, he?” “Hmmm,” said the man. He seemed to be deep in thought and obviously did not wish to be disturbed.

Sometime later, the man said softly, “Look at the water, it is absolutely still.”

The boy said, “Yeah, it is.”

The man tossed a pebble into the water and continued, “Only till I toss a pebble into it now do you see the ripples?”

“Yeah,” said the boy, “they spread further and further.”

“And soon, the water is still again,” offered the man.

The boy said, “Sure, it becomes quiet, after a while.”

The man continued, “What if we want to stop the ripples? The root cause of the ripples is the stone. Lets take the stone out. Go ahead and look for it.” The boy put his hand into the water and tried to take the stone out.

But he only succeeded in making more ripples. He was able to take the stone out, but the number of ripples that were made in the process were a lot more than before.

The wise man said, “It is not possible to stop the movement of the water once a pebble has been thrown into it. But if we can stop ourselves from throwing the pebble in the first place, the ripples can be avoided altogether! So too, it is with our minds. If a thought enters into it, it creates ripples. The only way to save the mind from getting disturbed is to block and ban the entry of every superfluous thought that could be a potential cause for disturbance.”

“If a disturbance has entered into the mind, it will take its own time to die down. Too many conflicting thoughts just cause more and more disturbances. Once the disturbance has been caused it takes time to ebb out. Even trying to forcibly remove the thought may further increase the turmoil in the mind. Time surely is a great healer, but prevention is always better than cure.”

Before you allow a thought or a piece of information to enter your mind, put it through the triple filter test of authenticity, goodness and value.

Your Birth Order Says A Lot About Your Personality


Your birth order can really affect your personality. We all are more or less familiar with these common 4 stereotypes when it comes to birth order personalities:the only child always have trouble in sharing his or her feeling, the oldest child is always bossy, the youngest ones are naughty and spoilt and the middle – well the middle is stuck in the middle. Let us now look closely at each birth order along with typical characteristics associated with them.

OLDEST CHILDREN

Firstborns are natural leaders. They are often looked up to by others, and as a result, automatically take on a role of leadership. Parents are often the most strict with first-born children, and expect them to “set an example” for younger siblings.
First-born children tend to…
  • Be reliable, conscientious and perfectionists who don’t like surprises.
  • The oldest child feels the most pressure and have more goals to meet.
  • Although, firstborns are typically aggressive, many are also compliant people pleasers
  • They are seen as being the least likely to travel or be physically daring.

MIDDLE-BORN CHILDREN

Middle children are like stuck in the middle. They often believe their elder siblings are given all the advantages and that the babies of the family are spoilt and given extra attention. However, being “stuck in the middle” often results in these individuals being skilled at compromising and getting along with others.
Middle born children tend to…
  • They value meaningful bonds, and they know how to compromise and adapt easily to any situation
  • They can usually read people well since they are used to dealing with both elder and younger ones.
  • Develop skills or talents not shared by siblings- for example, if an older sibling is a star athlete, a middle born child may focus on music for their talent.
  • Be the most varied of all of the birth positions – for example, he or she may be friendly and outgoing, or shy and quiet
  • They tend to not openly share their thoughts or feelings.

LAST-BORN CHILDREN

Last-born children are often known as the “baby” of the family. They expect others to do things for them, make decisions, and take responsibility
Last-born children tend to…
  • Be outgoing & socialize well, they can also be manipulative sometimes.
  • Feel inferior to siblings & considered spoiled, demanding, or impatient
  • Be the most creative one, but they can also be rebellious
  • Develop abilities that older siblings don’t have

ONLY CHILD

If you are an only child, you probably feel the pressure to achieve. As a result of gaining undivided attention from parents, only children are often considered to be self-centered.
Only children tend to…
  • Be responsible, well-organized, perfectionists and imaginative
  • Be comfortable with responsibility
  • Not take criticism well
  • Be comfortable with being the center of attention
  • They are seen to be more in nature than other.