6 Signs Your Partner Is Manipulating You

1. You find yourself emotionally volatile.

The one thing the manipulator enjoys more than anything is to guilt you. When you're made to feel guilty about something, you often find yourself feeling self-hate. Self-hate leads to emotional volatility. One thing you'll notice is a sense of stability returning to your life.

2. You're finding your relationships with others are getting worse.

Your manipulating partner may have, without you even really realizing it, pulled you away from people you love. Those friends you lost contact with are probably still ready and willing to be around you. Try reconnecting with people.

3. You have a horrible sense of self.

The presence of a manipulating person in your life can be a large one. In the same way the earth casts a shadow on the moon, blacking it out fully during a solar eclipse, the manipulator can cast a shadow over you and your personality. Without them blocking out the sun, you remember who you are and have a better sense of yourself.

4. You forget things you once enjoyed.

The manipulator probably took you away from your favorite hobbies in the same way they took you away from people you love. When you leave them, suddenly you remember how much you enjoy chess and hiking and you fully understand you've left a manipulator.

5. You never feel at peace.

With a manipulator in your life, you never truly feel at peace with yourself and the world you live in. If you escape the manipulator, it may take time to find inner peace, but it'll happen.

6. You feel like you can't trust anyone.

It may take time, but your trust in others will be restored eventually.

His Wife Left Him And Their Son After A Fight. Two Days Later, He Posts This Shocking Letter

No matter how much you love your spouse, arguing with them is pretty much inevitable — especially when you have kids.

When you both work hard to do what’s best for your family, the stress and frustration may become too much to bear.

So when this wife felt unappreciated by her husband, she got tired of fighting with him. She tearfully left him alone with the children without any sign that she’d come back. Just two days later, though, her husband decided to write her a letter about his feelings, and you need to see what it says.

“My darling,

Two nights ago, we had a huge argument. I was exhausted when I got home from work. It was 8:00 p.m and all I wanted to do was to lie down and watch the game.

You weren’t in a good mood, and you were clearly tired after having a long day. You were trying to put the baby to sleep as the other kids were fighting, and all I did was turn the volume up.

“Would it kill you to play a more active role in your children’s upbringing?” you asked, turning the television volume back down. “You can help out more around the house, too.”

“Hey,” I said defensively. “I work hard all day just so you could play in the doll’s house all day.” The argument just kept going like that. I said terrible things to you that I can never take back, and you screamed, saying that you were sick of it all. So you tearfully ran out of the house, leaving me to take care of the children on my own.

I was forced to feed the kids and put them to bed all by myself. When you didn’t come back the next day, I was forced to ask my boss if I could take a day off so I could take care of the children.

I experienced the crying and the tantrums. I experienced having to run around so much all day that I didn’t even have a chance to shower.

I experienced being forced to heat the milk, getting the kids dressed, and cleaning the kitchen all at once. I experienced being cooped up all day without speaking to an adult. I experienced the inability to sit calmly at the table to have a relaxed meal whenever I wanted, because I had to run after the kids.

I experienced feeling so physically and emotionally drained that I just wanted to sleep for 20 hours straight, but had to get up a few hours after falling asleep because the baby was crying. I lived two days and two nights the way that you do, and I think I get it now.

I get your exhaustion. I get that being a mother is all about sacrifice. I get that it is more tiring than being among corporate bigwigs for 10 hours and making economic decisions.

I get how frustrated you must be to have to sacrifice your job and financial freedom so that you can provide for your children. I get how uncertain you are about the fact that your economic security now depends on your partner and not just you. I get how hard it is to not be able to hang out with your friends, exercise, or get a good night’s sleep.

I get how challenging it is, being locked up and being forced to to watch the children while imagining what you must be missing in the outside world. I also get that you become upset when my mother criticizes how you choose to raise our children, because nobody in the world knows what is best for children like their own mother.

I get that being a mother means carrying society’s greatest burdens. Being the person that nobody appreciates, values, or remembers. I write you this letter not just to tell you that you are missed, but additionally because I don’t want to go another day without telling you: “You are strong, doing an excellent job, and I admire you.”

I did not expect that ending. It looks like he learned his lesson the hard way!

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Why Couples Who Argue Love Each Other More

Relationships usually begin with hearts and butterflies. 

Everything is fine and dandy. You agree with each other and you compromise. But, as the relationship moves past the “honeymoon stage,” you start to show opinions, differences, and your individual personalities. It is then that you experience a fluctuation in the harmony of the union. A relationship gets tested. If you can have healthy arguments, you can truly learn from one another.

Arguing is a major form of communication. 

It shows individualism, different perspectives and the ability to teach each other. Arguments aren’t necessarily an indicator that there are problems in a relationship. Psychiatrist explains that arguing well requires skills that take time to build. Here are five of his suggestions:

* Don’t insist on being right

* Speak up as soon as you feel anger rising

* Listen

* Stick to the topic at hand

* Don’t say something you will regret

Why Couple Who Argue Love Each Other More

Arguing doesn’t determine that a relationship is suffering.  

Having arguments can actually indicate that two people have their own individual ideas and opinions. They can bring them to the table and share them in a healthy manner. Relationships that do not argue can be withdrawn and full of tension, as neither party wants to share their thoughts to not hurt each other. They may bottle it all up. The lack of arguing can also be expressed as a lack of engagement to the relationship. There may be a problem with trust. Perhaps you need to ask yourself the following questions:

How committed are you if you can express your own ideas? 

Are you afraid of stepping over boundaries? In your relationship, can you truly be your authentic self? Are you afraid to speak your ideas and opinions?

Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, shared on Psychology Today, that there are seven ingredients to a healthy and happy relationship, and arguing is one of them. She goes on to explain, “I’ve never seen a healthy couple that doesn’t argue. They never fight, however – they argue. If a couple comes into my office and tells me they’ve never argued, something isn’t quite right. You can argue without fighting. Arguing is non-combative – you and your partner state your points of view without name-calling or raising your voice. Sometimes you agree to disagree – and that’s okay. Figure out what your ‘non-negotiables’ are – the things that you will not budge on. Now rethink that list. I like the saying, You can either be right, or married.”

There will always be challenges and conflicts in a relationship. 

Once the initial stages pass on to stability and longevity, people tend to fall into their own territories again. They want to be heard and understood, follow their passions, and be acknowledged for who they are. Couples who argue are expressing their desires to be heard. When done constructively, it isn’t fighting. It is expressing their needs. And happy couples hear each other. In a moment of heavy discussion. they will stand their ground, and this is a sign of mutual respect. You can respect and show vulnerability.

There is a difference between angry fighting and truly expressing your thoughts in a relationship.