When a person Hurts you

I don't know the actual meaning of maturity, but for me maturity is when a person hurts you & you try to understand their situation rather than hurting them back.

Hurting them back only means that both of you hurt then, and you caused them hurt. If you love someone you will do all you can to never intentionally cause them pain, even if they have caused you unbearable pain at times, you would rather cut out your own heart than to hurt them. In short, true love doesn’t seek it’s own, rather it seeks the best for the other always. It doesn’t matter in the long run what they may do to you, what really matters is what you about it. You don’t have to put up with their stuff, you can just walk away, and if that hurts them, then they only have themselves to blame, but never hurt back if you truly love them ~ Frank Hancock 

“I have learned now that while those who speak about one's miseries usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more.” ~ C.S. Lewis

When you try to understand why you feel hurt before you blame someone else for your feeling to understand if they really abused you (physically, sexually, psychologically, socially, etc.) or if you are just being jealous, prejudice, demanding something unreasonable, not respecting their boundaries or right to say no, etc. or even misinterpreting the situation. ~ Mari Cammarata 

Maturity is accepting full responsibility for my actions/behavior and not blame others for my choices that have formed my reality. ~ Mary Davison 

The wisdom of maturity, sets you free from the need to react. Accepting that when someone hurts you, they do not have the power to hurt you, you choose to feel hurt. Their bad behaviour is their issue to solve. ~ Caitriona Doran